At 6:30 in the morning I receive a text from another pilot’s wife. The text read,”Hey Chica, Good morning just saying Hi, let’s get together for lunch today.” I responded, “Sure absolutely!”
After hitting send on my text, I became nervous, like an elementary school girl meeting a new friend in the lunchroom. I wanted to make a good impression; I stressed over what to wear.
We had only met once, on a lunch date that our husbands had arranged
Thankfully, she and I connected right away. We talked about kids, husbands, families and, of course, how long we’d been married to our pilots. Before we knew it, our visit was flying its way into cocktail hour at the bar. But we were responsible women and had to pick up our kids from school. So we said our goodbyes with hugs and scheduled another time to re-connect.
Meanwhile, she had befriended another pilot wife and that pilot wife befriend another pilot wife. Before you could push back an airplane and close the door, we had all become friends. All four of us text each other almost every day. Sometimes those texts will start as early at 6 am and go on till eleven at night.
I had no idea that I would be blessed with three amazing, beautiful ladies. We make each other laugh till we pee in our pants, or spit out our drink of choice. We call and vent to each other with no worries of feeling judged. We genuinely care about each other. That can be a rarity in this culture that we live in.
Pieces of the Wedge
Maintaining friends takes hard work. Especially in this day of technology, where face to face relationships are becoming less and less. I don’t want that.
I want to have friends that I call on and say, “Hey can you come over and be with me cause my teenager is angry and I don’t know what to do? “ “Or ‘hey I know it’s late, but I need to vent, my husband is …… or I’m worried cause I’m going to the doctors, etc.” We all need friends to walk with us in the good trips and ugly trips of our lives.
I’ve learned having a wedge of friends is necessary. As I was thinking about it, I came up with an acronym for WEDGE.
W-Wine. Having wine with your girlfriend(s) is a must!
E-Excitement. When we share good news, like personal accomplishments, or our husbands upgrade, and we share their excitement.
D-Dependable. When we are facing a difficult situation on our own, we know we can depend on one another.
G-Giggles. When we find something funny to share that will make them giggle its fun to let our girlfriends know.
E-Encouragement. When we’re feeling sad, or stressed by our family or frustrated with life, in general, their encouragement is the perfect pick-me-up in moments like those.
My favorite verse in the Bible about friendship is, “A friend loves at all times.” Proverbs 17:17
A true friend will love you through a bad mood, an accident that happened to your child, a blown up microwave before a dinner party, or even a hurricane ( and your pilot is gone.
These are the WEDGE of friends that matter. I don’t know what I would do without them.
An invaluable blessing of friends
There’ve been times when each of us have called one another and the first thing out of our mouth are, “I’m venting! Let me cry.” We all know that whatever we say stays between us. No taking off with what we share to a different town. I will say that we have our “textful” venting times as well. ( those can be interesting, especially when all the emojis appear).
“On This Day” on Facebook, and it’s been exactly one year ago when my girlfriend and I met for lunch that day. Happy Anniversary, my friend!
There’s a quote I love that defines the friendships I have. “We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.”
If I were to ask a PW what is the most valuable thing to have while their hubby is away, without hesitation, they’d say friends. I couldn’t agree more.
When my husband and I made our move from Florida to Houston ( the place we now call home), I prayed I’d meet other pilot wives. I wasn’t looking for much, just a friend to have coffee or wine with now and then.
Today as I’m writing this I know without a doubt that I didn’t meet these four ladies on accident. I believe that God placed them in my life at just the right time.
Our prayer this week:
Dear heavenly father, I think of a quote I saw that said, “You don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.” My heart is blessed with the friends that you’ve given me in this season of life. For those that are searching for those blessings of friends, I just ask that you bring them a friend or two that can be there to inspire, stretch and encourage them as my friends have done for me. Amen.
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