Dear Pilot Wife of Wisdom,

Dear Pilot Wife of Wisdom 2,

You’re quite impressive as a PW wife and mom! While I’ve been a PW for 20+ years, I still struggle to be a virtuous woman as you are. You have wisdom in so many areas of being a godly PW. I’ve been wondering how I can do the same.

I aspire to be a wife and mother of noble character like you.

You are trustworthy, responsible, and sacrificial with purchases as well you are a fantastic cook with providing healthy meals for your family. I’ve heard from others who say you are savvy when it comes to purchases and what an excellent cook you are!

Your hospitality toward others shows a warmth about you that I hope to copy in life; especially family and friends when they arrive at our home, planned or unexpected. I hope to follow in your footsteps in areas of managing your household.   I’ve read how you use your talents and work hard. What an incredible example you are to your children!

I honestly don’t know how you do it all. You are such a wonderful example of someone who takes care of her health and body in ways that reap a positive benefit, who is a likable friend, mom, and wife to be around and who does everything with a joyful heart.  When you’re too tired to wash another dish or bake brownies for a school party, you never complain you keep doing what is needed. The compassion and grace that you bestow is something I hope to follow. 

As a PW, I love how your husband has full confidence in you when those unexpected water emergencies occur or when your children get sick.  When his unpredictable schedule pops up on your radar, the check-list you run to at a moment’s notice is remarkable.

When I look at you, I see an elegant PW. You have impeccable style, and your appearance is always impressive. I feel better about myself when I’ve taken the time to dress nicely and tidy up the house in the morning. It doesn’t happen every day,  especially when my pilot is away, but you take pride in painting a beauty about you and your home for your husband.

I’ve read so many things about you, but of everything I’ve read, this is my favorite:

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her works have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” (Proverbs 31:10-31)

So how do you do it all? Maybe you could offer me some wisdom in these areas?

In your Marriage … 

One of the things I love about you is the attention you shower on your spouse. He is respected amongst his peers and receives many praises. I struggle to provide the attention at times to my husband when he needs it, or even to take the time to set up a date night with him. I will admit I have moments of being selfish with what I want.

1. How do you wake up early and make him breakfast before he leaves at that dreadful hour of 0-dark early?

2. How do you find time for him when he’s home and show ways to love him and care for his needs or to sit with him over coffee or a glass of wine? Especially with little people running around wanting your attention as well?

3. When he is home and leaves all his laundry on the floor or his suitcase in the one place where you don’t see it, what do you do?

Self-care and time for yourself …

I’ve read that you take time to care for yourself and it shows not only with your family but others as well.

1. How do you choose your words wisely?

2. Does your husband say you are beautiful? Especially when you have food stains on your shirt or your hair is not brushed cause you forgot.

3. Can you offer suggestions in ways that I may be able to find time for myself?

4. Do you sometimes want to eat cheesecake or a chocolate chip cookie and have a glass of red wine then cry later cause you to feel fat?

5. After cleaning and preparing for the next day do you sometimes feel like flying away to Costa Rica and not telling anybody? I know I do from time to time.  ( Is that bad?)

With Mothering …

1. Do your children raise and call you blessed?  How does that happen? The getting them to rise out of bed, that is?

2. As your children grow-up do you find yourself getting less strict, then when you were with your first born?

3. How do you teach your children to work hard and show love for others?

4. How do you encourage them to have confidence in themselves as they grow up in ways that God has created them to be?

I mean, you make it seem so easy it intimidates me! How can I ever live up to be the awesome mother that you are?

  While I have million more questions than these three topics, I’d also love to get your input on these things:

  • Can you offer suggestions for preparing healthy meals for my family?
  • Do you have advice on how to be creative in my spending and choosing wisely on big purchases?
  • Can you help me be more productive and manage my time better, especially while I’m flying solo-parent a few times a week?

I’d love it if you took the time to write me back and give me your advice. I’ll be checking my inbox regularly, waiting to hear from you!

-An ever hopeful PW

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