Dear Pilot Wife of Wisdom,

Dear Pilot Wife of Wisdom 2,

You’re quite impressive as a PW wife and mom! While I’ve been a PW for 20+ years, I still struggle to be a virtuous woman as you are. You have wisdom in so many areas of being a godly PW. I’ve been wondering how I can do the same.

I aspire to be a wife and mother of noble character like you.

You are trustworthy, responsible, and sacrificial with purchases as well you are a fantastic cook with providing healthy meals for your family. I’ve heard from others who say you are savvy when it comes to purchases and what an excellent cook you are!

Your hospitality toward others shows a warmth about you that I hope to copy in life; especially family and friends when they arrive at our home, planned or unexpected. I hope to follow in your footsteps in areas of managing your household.   I’ve read how you use your talents and work hard. What an incredible example you are to your children!

I honestly don’t know how you do it all. You are such a wonderful example of someone who takes care of her health and body in ways that reap a positive benefit, who is a likable friend, mom, and wife to be around and who does everything with a joyful heart.  When you’re too tired to wash another dish or bake brownies for a school party, you never complain you keep doing what is needed. The compassion and grace that you bestow is something I hope to follow. 

As a PW, I love how your husband has full confidence in you when those unexpected water emergencies occur or when your children get sick.  When his unpredictable schedule pops up on your radar, the check-list you run to at a moment’s notice is remarkable.

When I look at you, I see an elegant PW. You have impeccable style, and your appearance is always impressive. I feel better about myself when I’ve taken the time to dress nicely and tidy up the house in the morning. It doesn’t happen every day,  especially when my pilot is away, but you take pride in painting a beauty about you and your home for your husband.

I’ve read so many things about you, but of everything I’ve read, this is my favorite:

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: ‘Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.’ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Honor her for all that her works have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” (Proverbs 31:10-31)

So how do you do it all? Maybe you could offer me some wisdom in these areas?

In your Marriage … 

One of the things I love about you is the attention you shower on your spouse. He is respected amongst his peers and receives many praises. I struggle to provide the attention at times to my husband when he needs it, or even to take the time to set up a date night with him. I will admit I have moments of being selfish with what I want.

1. How do you wake up early and make him breakfast before he leaves at that dreadful hour of 0-dark early?

2. How do you find time for him when he’s home and show ways to love him and care for his needs or to sit with him over coffee or a glass of wine? Especially with little people running around wanting your attention as well?

3. When he is home and leaves all his laundry on the floor or his suitcase in the one place where you don’t see it, what do you do?

Self-care and time for yourself …

I’ve read that you take time to care for yourself and it shows not only with your family but others as well.

1. How do you choose your words wisely?

2. Does your husband say you are beautiful? Especially when you have food stains on your shirt or your hair is not brushed cause you forgot.

3. Can you offer suggestions in ways that I may be able to find time for myself?

4. Do you sometimes want to eat cheesecake or a chocolate chip cookie and have a glass of red wine then cry later cause you to feel fat?

5. After cleaning and preparing for the next day do you sometimes feel like flying away to Costa Rica and not telling anybody? I know I do from time to time.  ( Is that bad?)

With Mothering …

1. Do your children raise and call you blessed?  How does that happen? The getting them to rise out of bed, that is?

2. As your children grow-up do you find yourself getting less strict, then when you were with your first born?

3. How do you teach your children to work hard and show love for others?

4. How do you encourage them to have confidence in themselves as they grow up in ways that God has created them to be?

I mean, you make it seem so easy it intimidates me! How can I ever live up to be the awesome mother that you are?

  While I have million more questions than these three topics, I’d also love to get your input on these things:

  • Can you offer suggestions for preparing healthy meals for my family?
  • Do you have advice on how to be creative in my spending and choosing wisely on big purchases?
  • Can you help me be more productive and manage my time better, especially while I’m flying solo-parent a few times a week?

I’d love it if you took the time to write me back and give me your advice. I’ll be checking my inbox regularly, waiting to hear from you!

-An ever hopeful PW

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Where To Find Your Bravery

As my husband and I walked up to the other passengers that we would travel with to the ATM in Belize, I couldn’t help but feel as if I was the ugly duckling in the group. While they all looked athletically fit in their swim shorts and swim rash guards, I realized I didn’t have the proper attire for our excursion. They one thing I had going for me was the right pair of shoes.  It was going to be a long day for me.

 

Where You Find Your Bravery.

For over an hour that morning, I suffered from fear, sweating profusely and trying to ignore the growing knots in my stomach as we traveled to our destination. After we piled out of the van, our most excellent and knowledgable guide directed us to the change in the bathroom. When I made my way in the bathroom to change into my swimsuit, I could taste the tears flowing down my cheeks.  Rather than doing what I was supposed to, I created a long list of reasons why I couldn’t go and prayed my husband would believe me. ( yeah, I should’ve known that wouldn’t go over well with him.)

Fear controls us in so many ways. And it definitely had its control on me right then.

When I finally climbed over my fear, I was able to face challenges I’d never encountered before.

First of all, there were three rivers to cross to get to the cave. Girlfriend, I held on for dear life to the rope for my river crossing.  Then I was afraid of tripping on rocks and falling.  Not only that, the only way into the dark cave was to swim in waist-high water while wearing your helmet.

Within a few minutes of water crossing as the water rose to my chest, I then had to fit through crevices with a sharp-edged rock sticking out.  I was scared!  The only thing I could do was trust the guide and know that my husband was right behind me.

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This photo is from Pinterest. To give you a real picture of what I had to do – this is it!

Want to know what’s really funny about all this? I was the one who wanted to take this trip. I had a romantic vision of having quality time with Jeff and experiencing a sense of being in the jungle and nature of Belize. Well, I experienced nature to the fullest.

Jungle Bravery

1. Being brave is listening to those voices of courage. While I was crying in the bathroom ready to wimp out, I needed to focus on trusting the expert guide and my husband. Above all else, I needed to trust God. He knew I was about to cross rivers and enter a dark, scary cave. He would be waiting to greet me on the other side in new ways I never thought possible.

2.  Let other’s bravery encourage you.  When I witnessed the other travelers with us, I saw them being brave and sure of the outcome, so in essence, it made me want to be as well. As I was maneuvering through those rocks and dark waters, it became a domino effect as I saw them do the same thing.

3. Conquer those brave moments without fear. I entered into the cave of the unknown and climbed boulders that required strength. I could have easily said, “No, not doing it,” but instead I focused on what our guide was telling me.

When I walked out of that 3-mile cave, I never thought going on the trip and conquering something like that would have such a profound effect on me. When I made my way out of that large cave, I cried. The tears that streamed down my face were not the tears of sorrow. They were the tears of courage and confidence.

When you walk through the rivers

Each one of us has caves to scale and rivers to cross. They may not all look the same, but take comfort in knowing you’re not alone.  You may be knee-deep in the waters raising kids as a solo parent, dealing with a sick family member, or putting on a brave face with friends when you’re struggling. Regardless of what you are facing, you can be brave and walk on the other side of your challenges stronger and more courageous.

How? Here are a few ideas to help you with whatever you’re facing:

1. Find those friends/wives who have traveled before you. Trying to handle it all is hard and challenging. Seek out others who can offer you support in ways that can help you through rough rivers.  “Encourage each other and build each other up.”  (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

2. Be encouraged. When you are afraid of not knowing what do remember to put courage in your bag cause that’s the way to get courage out.  “Do not be discouraged for I am with you. (Joshua 1:9 NIV)

3. Remember that you are strong. The fear of a struggle can cause panic. We feel we don’t have the strength to overcome an obstacle or a challenging time. It ’s then we need to shift during those times. To remember to shift our view of ourselves to Christ and to rely on his strength and wisdom.  “For God has not given us the sprint of fear, but power love and a sound mind.” (2 Timothy 1:7)

 “Courage is not the absence of fear.  It’s moving forward despite those fears, trusting in God’s help.”Where You Find Your Bravery. (2)

Right footing required

Our guide and my God knew that the path was not going to be easy.   It was going to be rocky, and we would face challenges, including large boulders!

These obstacles reminded me of a verse that I have on a wooden pallet in my home: “He makes my feet of a deer, he causes me to stand on the heights.”  (Psalm 18-3 NIV)

This verse reminds me that when I fly into my fear or discouragement whether it be my parenting, caring for a family member or dealing with a  struggle in my marriage, God gives me the kind of feet I need at that particular moment.

When I swam into that unknown, our wise guide and God knew it wasn’t going to be a calming excursion.

So often we want our path to be flat, wide and smooth and peaceful. But God says it isn’t like that. Usually, the road is turbulent with a strong wind gust that takes us to unexpected places.

With the right footing that God gives us, we can handle those times of uncertainty and fear. That day in the bathroom I should’ve asked God to provide me with the right feet for the path. Even though I failed to ask, He was gracious enough to give them to me anyway. I  just didn’t realize it.

What kind of path are you facing today? Are you trying to venture to the right or the left of where God wants you to be? Or are you asking God that whatever path or cave you find yourself in that you have the right kind of footing to make you bold and courageous?

We all face those boulders and challenges in our lives. Just remember that we’ve all been there.  If you’re struggling, you’ve come right place; a place filled with love and encouragement.

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Our trip was a lot of fun and Jeff, and I had a great time reconnecting. After our adventure in the cave, he shared this post on his Facebook page… Tiff read ahead on Pinterest while Jeff skimmed some reviews on trip advisor for the ATM (short for long, confusing Mayan sentence) cave tour. She was better prepared than I to swim the river, wade the river, wade the river again, hike a few miles, then go swimming and climbing under over and through crevasses and gymnasium-sized chambers filled with water or Mayan artifacts. They don’t allow cameras in there anymore because people were trying to get good pictures are stupid and literally broke skulls (ancient dead ones mostly). My reward was a beer with lunch. Her reward for being such a brave trooper and holding my hand in the scary cave was dinner at a lovely place. I can afford it here in Belize.

 

IMG_3765  Take-off and Landings Always, Tiffany

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Where is my Cookie?

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A few years ago Jeff called me after he was flying the friendly skies and had nestled in his hotel room for the night. I asked him how he was, and he said that he was waiting for a new coffee pot to be delivered. It was seven o’clock in the evening, so I was puzzled as to why he wanted coffee!

Apparently, the coffee pot in his room was not percolating as it should be.  He was craving a warm cup of decaf coffee to eat with his delicious, mouthwatering cookie

(I could literally taste the cookie and smell the coffee as he was explaining it to me).

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As we were talking, or should I say, he was giving me a detailed write up on his gooey, melt in your mouth treat, there was a knock at his door. His new coffee maker was delivered on a silver platter as requested. Okay, maybe not a silver platter…but this whole thing was becoming quite the event.

While waiting for his coffee to brew, Jeff was a smart husband and changed the flight plan to ask how my day was, if the kids were behaving, and reminding me that he loved me.  However, as we were sharing our day, all I could think about was the darn cookie!  Our phone conversation didn’t last very long cause I had to get off this whole cookie- coffee trip!

Where can you find such a cookie? This source of this delightful dessert is none other than the DoubleTree hotel. Have you ever stayed at a DoubleTree Hotel? 

DoubleTree’s motto is …”Every stay starts with a warm cookie welcome, no matter where you are in the world. The cookie is only the beginning. It represents the constant dedication to our guest and thoughtful touches that ensure you feel special and cared for throughout your stay.”

  Their chocolaty cookie is all about a  sweet treat. Their cookie is to die for!  You can read about the history here.

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I made cookies to get rid of that cookie envy feeling.

Cookie Envy

After our phone conservation, I sat down at the kitchen table and looked out the window. I was worn out and ready to call it an evening. Escaping to my room for a long, warm bath- and a cookie!- Sounded like bliss.

If anybody needed a cookie, it was me!  It was at that moment that I found myself wishing I could call up room service and have a special sweet treat and my drink of choice delivered on a silver platter.

I hate to admit, but I do pack the jealousy bag from time to time.  I dream of nights in a spa hotel with soft, luscious sheets and pillows, freshly folded towels in the bathroom and all the sweet and heavenly smell of the lotions and creams. And the heavenly aroma of a freshly baked treat that will melt in my mouth waiting for my arrival.

Then my dream comes to a screeching halt, and I remember that my husband makes sacrifices every time he is flying. He sleeps in a hotel several nights at a time.  He misses out on a lot of family time. Honestly, I really shouldn’t have cookie envy.

But  I do.

Yet when I come to the end of my day, and I’m relaxing in my living room chair or my bed, I’ll tell you, I wouldn’t trade it for the world! Cause I know God is watching out for me. He gives me the strength to handle each day as it comes. It takes a unique woman to be a Pilot’s Wife, and God knows that. 

I may not get that warm cookie or decaf coffee delivered to me, and that’s okay.  I know that my dessert may come in other forms such as a kiss goodnight from my teenager, a little boy laying his head on my lap, or a call from an old friend. Or maybe, just maybe, God will bless me with his spiritual, warm treat and coffee and remind me as a wife and mom that I’m doing a pretty good job at this so-called Pilot’s Wife thing.

That’s all the dessert I need.

I came up with my DoubleTree motto:

“Every day starts with a warm cup of love. I will always have that feeling no matter where I’m in the world of a mom, wife, daughter,  or friend. The cookie (experience) of a warm heart is only the beginning to melt away the stresses of the day. It represents a constant dedication to our family and thoughtful touches from our loved ones that ensure us that we’ve felt special and cared for throughout our day”.

IMG_2041When he got home I made the DoubleTree Cookie Recipe. The cookies were gooey, moist and warm. It was icing on the cookie to share the cookies with my pilot!

Here is the link to Doubletree Cookies recipe for the world-famous DoubleTree cookies. Ask your family to make them for you for you (wink, wink) while you lounge in your favorite chair.

IMG_3765 Take-off and Landings Always, Tiffany

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