Have you heard the saying, “Let your no be no and your yes be yes”? Last week I owned my no and my yes! It felt good to do that.
If I said, ”No” I would’ve have missed out on something beautiful.
Like any other workday, my husband called me around 4:30 pm when he had landed. Seeing his name on my phone, I was ready to walk out the door to make my way to the airport to bring him home. However, the second I answered, he informed me that he was rerouted. He went on to say that he’d made a listing for me to fly away with him on an 18 hour overnight! Before I could decline his offer, he asked me to make arrangements at the kennel for the dog, pack an overnight bag, and meet him at the airport at 6:00. Our flight was leaving at 7:30.
Girlfriend, I had to move fast! There was no time for me to think about all the reasons for saying no, cause I had a few:
1. The Kennel would be closing at 5:30. There was no way they would let me bring the dog in this late, let alone have room for her. (They did!)
2. I’d made plans to go over to a girlfriend’s house where she had put together a little gathering for us wedge of friends at 6:00. I knew my PW girlfriend would understand. When I texted her about this unexpected adventure with my pilot, she encouraged me to go, go, go!
3. And if I were to say yes, how am I going to pack a bag in less than an hour? While at the same time thinking of things I had not gotten done and trying to remember if I’d brought my make-up and deodorant. Deodorant was important cause I was sweating with nerves.
4. What if I went to all this trouble only to arrive at the airport to find out that Jeff had been rerouted again and I was left alone with my luggage?
Do you ever have those silly thoughts or reasons to say no?
To ease your mind, all went according to plan, and my navigator swept me off my feet for an overnight. It was a first in a looooong time.
My yes was beautiful!
Sometimes plan, sometimes wing it
I’m all about planning, but there are times, many times, that I will sabotage the idea of winging it, only to regret later that I did.
I can’t remember the last time I flew off on an overnight with my husband, much less be on the same airplane he was flying. That was the icing on the cake! We had the best time, laughing, talking, and just being together. That wouldn’t have happened if I’d waited to plan out the event rather than acting spontaneously.
In her book, “The Best Yes,” Lysa Terkeurst says, “If we are going to live in the thrilling place of Best Yes opportunities, we must cut the but of lies chaining us to insecurities.” How many times have I let “but” stand in my way? But this, but that, but I need.
Every time I make a choice saying no to something to say yes or visa verse, I’m choosing to make something a little different than before, like I did this past weekend. I hope I’m learning to do it more so in the future. That call that I thought was to pick up Jeff made a sudden spontaneous turn around; this time I was driving to the airport to take-off with him.
How to carry your yes bag
The other day I landed on a verse from Proverbs 3:5-6 (MSG):
“Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.”
That afternoon, it wasn’t for me to figure everything out on my own, even though my heart started beating fast and my brain started thinking, “ Oh my, I can’t do this; I don’t have time.”
It was then that I took a deep breath, listened to my heart (which was saying, “Go!”) and made memories that will last a lifetime.
We seem to always hear or read reasons to say no, but what about yes?
Saying yes is about being courageous to do the things that we want to do. Let’s face it sometimes we say no cause of fear.
Why do we do that?
1. We tuck away that opportunity because we believe it’s not the perfect timing. When was the last time it was the perfect timing to go on a trip? Say yes to meeting a friend for coffee or dinner? When I say no to something, I usually regret missing out on the fun.
2. There are always reasons to say no. A no should be clear and obvious. We know when we should say no to something, but shouldn’t we also listen to our little cheerleader inside of us for the yes from time to time? We know she is often correct. My cheerleader had her pompoms and was cheering me to take that flight. When I had little ones at home, it was hard to do things on spur of the moment. I’ve been there- many times! All I can say is to listen to that inner cheerleader.
3. Opportunities don’t always come again like this. I would’ve regretted not saying yes when my husband took the controls in planning an overnight that I could go on. He saw the opportunity and embraced it. I needed to do the same. When those invitations arise, it does take effort and planning, but in the end, it’s worth it. PW, I’ve learned that the hard way.
In what ways can you say yes when the spontaneous arrives at your doorstep? You might have to say no to something, but in the end, I’m sure it would be beautiful.
Take-off and Landings Always, Tiffany
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