A Present of Perspective.

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Nestled in a comfy spot on the couch with my iPad, I was about to click on Pinterest and look for tree ideas for a Farm House Christmas when my husband comes into the living room with an announcement.  He suddenly has a great idea about the master bath downstairs and suggests we move our bedroom to the first floor.  He gave me a whole plan of what we could do. 

What? I just wanted to figure out where to put a Christmas tree.

Within minutes my thoughts went from a Christmas tree to a bathroom makeover.  Do you want to know what my first concern was when he landed the idea into my lap?

The downstairs bathroom only has one sink! How am I going to go to his and her sink and abundant counter space to one sink?  Not only that, if we move our master bedroom downstairs, it means I have to move my office upstairs. What will happen to my sanctuary?

Here I was merely thinking about where to put the Christmas tree.  Maybe I should just put the tree in the bathroom and call it done. (hahaha)

So for the last few days, I have been thinking about a bathroom remodel and where to put the tree. Both of them require rearranging things.  I tend to rearrange things in my home as therapy.  Though, right now, I see a different kind of treatment may be with wine.

The view I wish to have

I once read If you want a different perspective change your view.  Let’s face it a new bathroom and rearranging the furniture for the Christmas tree will definitely change my view.

But I’m also praying for a new perspective on some big decisions and new paths that God has me on. All of which overwhelm me. Honestly, I could use a new perspective in quite a few areas this time of year:

1.Holiday expectations. I have hopes of how our home will look to who will be here.  How much are we going to spend on our kids and family? Since Jeff’s schedule changes from year to year, will we do family dinner or breakfast this time of year? My expectations might need a new view this holiday season.

2. A new remodel.  Not only for the bathroom but for me as well. It will mean new surroundings, a different view than what I have now. If you know me, I’m not good with change. How am I going to adjust to having a less counter space to share? It’s called flexibility. 

3.A change of plans. What does God have for me right now in this season of my life? I’ve been thinking more and more about writing a memoir and the commitment that it would take.  Not only that, there are changes I want to make in my ministry to my PW tribe.

As I walk through these changes, it’s a good reminder that the best growth comes from rearranging and looking at things from a different view than before.  When we see the finished product, we find a surprising joy that we didn’t expect.

The outcome will be beautiful 

When I shared this story with a close friend of mine, she reminded me that finding that perfect place for the tree to remodeling a room in my home can be chaotic.

She also encouraged me to be open to a new outlook of what God has planned.  Cause life is a story. You have a start, a little conflict, and obstacles to overcome all of which lead to a beautiful ending that you didn’t expect.

“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29;11

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God gives me hope to what is to come.  A beautiful arrangement of his forever love and blessing. Although I’m fretting about these things, I’m grateful God has a plan, His perspective on how things will be.

Just like when my husband comes to me and says that we should toy with the idea of redoing the bathroom and moving our bedroom downstairs, there is a plan in the making.   But all I can see is chaos and construction.

 

Isn’t in those times we should open our minds and hearts to welcome those changes?

My PW, are you looking for a new perspective on something?  If so, let me assure you’re not alone!

This holiday season I pray you find a new way of looking at things, be open to change, and expect the unexpected. Maybe some of them will come with a big red bow around them.

If you have any rearranging to do or remodeling projects on the horizon, leave me a comment below. That way we can commiserate together!

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Have a Favorite Place to Sit?

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Do you have a favorite place to sit? Your go-to chair at home or let’s be real — your favorite seat on the airplane?

A few years ago when we finally made our arrival in our new house in Houston, Texas, I asked my mom, if I could have my Nana’s chair. It’s a chair that my Nana had when she was a little girl. I bet if the chair could talk there would be amazing stories to share. It has the smell of my Nana and my mom.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that has that one place that we call ours. It’s in those seats you feel comfortable, secure, and it feels right.  Kind of like Goldie Locks finding her just right chair to sit in. “Ahhh, this chair is just right,” she sighed. 

However, when Miss Goldie settled into her chair, it broke. I can relate.

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Every morning you can find me sitting in my favorite chair with a warm cup of coffee and having my quiet time in my cocoon of warmth and love. Because I’ve occupied the chair so much, it’s showing some wear — the seat cushion needs more bounce, the springs are getting loose, and the floral material has slowly been fading.  It’s time for me to give it some TLC and have it recovered.

To be honest, I have avoided reupholstering it. That would mean my chair would be gone and I would have no place to sit. But when I spotted the perfect fabric and color for my chair on sale, I knew it was time for me to let go. Within a week, I’d found a trusted upholsterer and shipped my beloved chair off for a new life.

Where do I sit now?

For the past few weeks now, I’ve been without my chair. Quite frankly, I have no idea where to sit or find an area in my house where it feels right.

I told my mom, “I have no idea where to go in the morning and drink my coffee. The smell of Nana, you and the cocoon of warmth is gone.” She laughingly told me that the next time she’s at my house, she will sit in the chair and cover it with her smell.  All I can say is I’m holding her to that!

While I know this is not a first world problem, it feels like it. I don’t know where to sit! My morning routine and the predictability of sitting with my coffee has been disrupted.  I know it’s only temporary, but it feels like this void will last forever.

Time to get out of your comfort zone.

“Life is full and overwhelming with the new. But its necessary to empty out the old to make room for the new to enter.” Eileen Caddy

Letting go of our comforts isn’t easy. I’m learning that every day my chair is not here with me. As much as I crave the comfort of my favorite spot, I know that the only way to make way for the new is to let go of the old. 

We need to re-evaluate why and seek out areas where we can renew our thoughts or actions for whatever God has for us.

Recently I’ve been contemplating  ( you can read more here)-my writings, my parenting and my desire to find something that gives me belonging.

Whether it’s letting go of a particular item, an unhealthy behavior or negative thinking, removing these things allows us to open our hands and lives to the better things God has for us.

For me, I found that not only do I need to move out of my favorite seat for a while, I also need to get rid of some other things as well:

1. I will sit down at my desk to write AFTER I’ve cleaned the kitchen put a load of laundry in the washer or catch up on all the social media happenings.  But that isn’t helping me become a better writer.  I need to schedule my writing time with a red pen and commit to it.

2.Thoughts of being perfect. I tend to think that I have to be the ideal mom. The truth is I screw up, and I don’t have it all together. I’m not perfect, and neither are my kids, but thankfully God is.  He knows what’s best for us and loves us anyway.

      3. My unwillingness to change. Often it takes stepping out of our comfort zones for us to discover new things. For me, I need to embrace the new season of life I’m in whether it’s volunteering or enjoying a hobby with my pilot, if I insist on staying where I’m at, I’ll miss out on some amazing adventures.

In what ways do you need to make changes in these areas? Are there things you feel that you need to let go of to make room for your best life?

Girl, life can be full and overwhelming at times, especially when changes are involved. But don’t let those things keep you tied down. You and I were meant to fly. Sometimes though, that can only happen when we let go.

When I finally get my new chair, I know it won’t be the exact same as it was. I will  have to create my own smell, warmth, and comfort (although I’m tempted to call my mom to come to sit in it a while! )

But when I settle into it, I’ll know that whether I’m evaluating my writing, my parenting or something that gives me belonging, I’ll look at them with a new perspective.

All from a chair with a new pattern and comfort of its own.

Let’s discuss and see how we can expand on this a bit.

 

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How to Discover Your Next Steps When You’re Re-routed.

 

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If I had a dollar whenever someone asked me where Jeff was flying to, I’d be one wealthy woman!  The majority of the time I tell people, “I have no idea. His route changes all the time because of weather, late arrivals or they need him to fly a different trip then was scheduled. There’s no set route.” ( Go here to read more PW questions I get asked.)

As much as we like predictability in life, we know that life is anything but predictable. There are always constant changes and re-routes thrown our way.

So, my PW girlfriend let me ask you… Do you fly the same route? Do you have a specific itinerary for your day, your week, or even the next five years?

I know, I know. You must be thinking – Wait, you’re kidding, right?

I feel as if I always have to shift my routing from one place to another. Whether, it’s five minutes, a week or the next five years, I’m always thinking and praying about what’s next.

What’s the best route for me?

This morning I listened to a podcast, “Girls Night Out,” with Stephanie Wilson.  The guest speaker was Emily P. Freeman, who was sharing how she discovered what the “Next Right Thing” was for her. In other words, what is the next best route for me at this time in my life,  and for the season I’m in?

Listening to Emily, I started to question what my next step was. What do I need to be doing or changing in my life right now? It can be making goals you want to accomplish, losing weight, perusing a career or opening a business. It’s your journey.

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  What’s my direction?

We all find ourselves planning, preparing, and making a check-list for our day-to-day operations. But when life throws us off course and we are to figure out how to bring back focus that’s when Emily said, “Ask yourself what makes sense to me today?”

Thinking about that, I asked myself what makes the most sense for me right now and remembered I needed to take the clothes out of the dryer. ( literally, I was thinking that)

But yet, I still have more significant questions about the bigger things in my life. What makes sense for me to focus not only today but a month from now, six months or even a year from now.

Recently I’ve struggled to figure out what’s next in certain aspects of my life. To be honest, some of them cause my anxiety levels to rise, but at the same time I find myself more courageous as I pursue the things that really matter to me :

1. What to do about my writing journey? I’ve been writing continuously for a year now, and I’ve seen myself evolving and changing the way I think and write. I’ve been more willing to share my struggles and vulnerability that wasn’t there before. Don’t get me wrong I still struggle with opening up my heart. But as I sit down at my computer and search for the words that will bring hope and love to other women I’m compelled to keep moving forward.

2. What can I do to bring hospitality back into my life?  A Book Club, Supper Club, something that allows me to open my heart and doors to a community of women who enjoy reading, eating and sharing the love of God. But being hospitable requires courage to step out, invite others to join me, and let go my control. (which is a whole another  story!).

3. What is the next step in my season of parenting a teenage boy? I often find myself on my knees praying for wisdom and direction. At the moment I’m fearful of where God’s path may be in leading us concerning our son’s next season of life. Letting go and trusting that God knows what is my son’s best thing is hard.

When is all said and done, the heart question I need to be asking is: Am I willing to change my route or am I going to stay grounded in fear?  Sometimes that is a difficult question to ask.

These are the things that have me questioning my current flight path and the possibility of re-routing. I’m having to approach things differently as a woman, a mom, and a wife. For you, it might be something else.

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There are days when turbulent moments/events will happen.  When they do, I remind myself  of one of my favorite go-to verses: “Always let him lead you, and he will clear the road for you to follow.” Proverbs 3:6 CEV 

When it comes to offering advice on the best possible route or step someone should take, I’ll admit, I’m no expert. When I question my path, I rely on God to show me. He always makes it clear to me what my next route is.

What will you choose when things change, and you’re to consider when life is re-routed? What will be your next step be?

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